Let not your Heart be troubled’ John 14:1

With all the effects of Covid 19, loss of loved ones, not being able to connect with others in close proximity, unemployment and the atmosphere of uncertainty our emotions can start to waver especially if we have other issues that make us more vulnerable. Extreme grief due to the loss of a Spouse, challenging health issues, not to mention so many more make us emotionally raw.

The key at this time is finding strength and support to manage our emotions. You say what does this mean? I define this as trying to extract from your circumstances what is going well and be grateful instantly for this. Giving Thanks always for all things is the key to a cheerful and light heart. It makes you optimistic and hopeful in spite of what is happening now.

Thanks, can be expressed in words, poetry, song, dance – please find the best expression that suits you. When we do our challenges become less magnified. For those of us still grieving or have gone through grief we go through waves of different feelings – one moment it is a wave that tries to overwhelm and another time it might be one that incapacitates.

What we do know is that our emotions constantly change and respond in different ways to given situations due to a fluctuation of emotions. As emotions fluctuate and can change, this suggests they can be quite subjective and not the best judge of how we might really be responding to situations around us.

As they are unpredictable, we have to understand to learn how to let each given wave of emotion ride and settle, before responding to or making decisions on other events around us.

So far emotions can be unpredictable and can prevent us from operating objectively in given situations. So, they can be deceptive, not in how you are feeling in your loss, but in how you perceive other events around you.

Therefore, our emotions when impacted cloud or veil our rational. So, it is in times of deep emotional challenge that it is important to talk and share with others on how you are feeling so as to get the right help and support.

 Emotions make us or push us to do the most horrendous things especially when your thoughts become internalised and not voiced out to give less life to them. One specific emotion e.g. pain of loss can bring feelings of fear into your life. As loss makes the future uncertain due to the sudden change of life. It is important to try to understand these feelings and that allows us to manage them and not allow how thoughts to lose control.

 Fear can make us take the most irrational decisions e.g. small tasks can become mammoth ones, small goals become impossible to achieve or making the effort to talk to just one new person can make you freeze and lose bottle.

Emotional tumult can distract us from what the real issues are e.g. with all the hidden emotions Covid 19 has brought to nations. Many are unconsciously afraid of where the next pay packet is coming from, businesses being dissolved – no customers, shops being restricted from opening due to legislature pertaining to Covid 19 prevention.

How do we manage our emotions at this time of lockdown? I can only prescribe for you a timeless principle that works for me which is reading my Bible. You can easily download a free copy from App store on your mobile phone or tablet, listen to it audibly. If you have never picked one up this might be your opportunity to do so.

Start reading the Psalms written by David, they are like songs that naturally sooth your soul, perhaps gradually with time you will gain courage to read some of the amazing events and testimonies that happened when Christ walked the earth 2000 years ago.

The word of God has the power to transform your life from the inside out, all you need is faith as small as a mustard seed.

Secondly utilise the support you have around – friends, acquaintances, neighbours and colleagues.

Thirdly perhaps try to explore items in your home or office that are not used, sell on line to make money. Take a closer look at your financial outgoings and see where you can reduce or get services cheaper. The less financial pressure you are in at this time will ease the burden on your emotions.  

Perhaps get a close friend to do the same so you can both motivate each other. If you have children get them to scout for items they do not use. Just start with a few tangible items so not to get overwhelmed – google suitable sites that allow you to do this. Watch out for ones that allow you to display items for 1p etc.

I have just started this weekly series on managing your emotions. Look out for more.

This time shall past. There is always Hope after Loss. Signing off now.  

Published by yemi278

I loss my husband over 8 years ago. I am a mother of two daughters. I have worked for over 20 years in Mental Health - empowering and giving holistic support to adults with long term Mental health challenges. I have seen through my work human beings have the ability and inner strength to survive any form of loss with the right support from family, friends and community.

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