I have pondered and meditated on the incident of the 25th May re the loss of George Floyd in the USA, and the momentum of the Black Lives Matter movement. My spirit and mind wrestled with the shock horror of another son dying! Emotionally and physically rattled yet again as another black family is left fatherless and widowed and a mother, sisters, brothers and communities are crying out again at such a senseless loss.

I have seen this played out again and again for over 40 years from the penal system to immigration of many western countries. I say today that as a society I declare that all Lives matter in the sight of our Creator and so it is very unfortunate that the Black Lives Matters in the 21st century has to remind the world that the life of the Black man has to be acknowledged as worthy at every level of humanity.

Before I go any further, I must salute the Black race as one that continues to survive and grow stronger in spite of slavery, colonism, imperialism, oppression, police brutality, loss of lives, education’s exclusion of black boys, unemployment disparities to name a few, yet we rise and grow stronger.

We have made significant strides in all levels of society in the Western World. From being President, magnificent Surgeons, Consultants, Doctors, Nurses, Engineers, Journalists, Entrepreneurs, Nurses, Builders, teachers, creatives and Sport professionals too numerous to recount.

We hear in the United Kingdom due to the cruel ravages of the current pandemic of Covid 19 the lives of many black professional and health workers that have worked on the front line have lost their lives. This raises questions of why teams were not equipped with sufficient Personal Protection Apparatus during the treatment of extremely sick patients. So many unanswered questions on Race in this instance too. Why is there a larger number of black people dying from Covid 19 in comparison to other communities?

It is not always about wanting cheap or token handouts from mainstream it’s about acknowledging and treating the black race as equal to every other man or woman created by God.

So, I ask myself how has the Black Race been able to survive this far? I believe it’s due to a possession of strong spiritual gifts as Courage, grit, optimism, self-control, self-discipline and creativity. The physical siege the black man faces in the west can only be countered by the power and strength of God which is Spiritual.Unparallell to any other.

Practically we know that to move forward in restoring the general view that Black Lives Matter the history of Positive contributions black men and women have made throughout history should be celebrated and incorporated into all parts of the Western education system from Primary School to higher education. Black historical dialogues should be entered into on the history that educates communities on the identity and prominence of the man of colour pre slavery, during colonialism and imperialism. 

An education system that incorporates in its curriculum positive Black education on race, being taught as soon as children attend school. Just as we learn of the Normandy invasion so should the triangular slave trade be taught. With this in place hopefully no one of the next generation in England will turn around and say to a black child or man that is born and bred in the West, should return to their country if they do not like it here.

Secondly the black community has made huge strides in developed nations of the world but in the United Kingdom we need to make greater strides. As economic power means political power, a greater voice at the decision makers table. Not just accepting the crumbs at the floor of the masters table so to speak figuratively.

For all those black precious lives loss I say rest in peace. I pray that life’s loss shall not be in vain. For those families bereft and left confused and in tumult turn those emotions positively into practically engineering change in communities in self-perception,

refuting self-prophecy, denigration, disrespect, gaining knowledge, development in education and making greater strides to claim that our children’s world is an oyster, to pursue achievement and success anywhere in the world. Automation has brought the world closer to us and so therefore the greater impact any human story can have like Black Life Matters.

You ask how does this apply to walking out of widowhood. It applies in the sense that race when denigrated and made to feel worthless is like a daily loss of identity and death. You are made to grieve each day if not careful, however a walking out of such effects of damaged perceptions requires searching in ourselves to fight to survive using spiritual qualities as mentioned and turning negatives into positives.

If one is to make a list of all black people that have died pre-Colonialism and post imperialism one would be overwhelmed and give up trying to survive and win.

For those who have experienced any form of loss I pray your loved one’s rest in peace and you are comforted on every side. If you have recently been widowed feel free to share or comment on my Blog. Feedback enriches a writer’s content and resolve.

Signing of now! There is always hope after loss!           


Published by yemi278

I loss my husband over 8 years ago. I am a mother of two daughters. I have worked for over 20 years in Mental Health - empowering and giving holistic support to adults with long term Mental health challenges. I have seen through my work human beings have the ability and inner strength to survive any form of loss with the right support from family, friends and community.

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